"Curiousity opens doors. Blame closes them." Anonymous
We often believe we know our partner/problem inside and out. This gives us a map from which we make decisions and take action, what we expect impacts what we find. I ask you to be curious about your problem, family or partner.
"If all you have is a hammer you will treat everything like a nail" Author Unknown
I have trained and practiced in many different models of therapy because I believe in personalising your therapy to suit you, your relationship and your family.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" Reinhold Neibhur
Together we will consider what can be changed and what cannot be changed. This allows us to focus our energy in the most useful direction for you. Acceptance is not resignation it is often a precursor to real change.
"Each relationship has its own unique set of unresolvable problems". Dr John Gottman.
The differences between us and our partner/family define our unresolvable problems. Knowing them well and learning the skills to negotiate them will transform your relationships.
"Is there something wrong with all of this? Or is there something wrong with me?" Everything Everything
You/your partner are not your problem, we will explore your relationship to the problem and dynamics in your relationship. We will also consider how your environment, culture and experiences may be contributing.
"We are all doing the best we can with the skills we have right now" Author Unknown
It is easy for us to confuse a lack of skills with permanent traits. I can help you learn new skills which can help you create big changes in your relationships and life.
If you would like more information on this please go to How I work - Models of Therapy